“Almost” Porn

I have a friend named Pam. Pam planned a girls night out! When her boyfriend asked what movie she was going to see she replied, “Just a film about a guy’s life of being a male stripper.” Her boyfriend kissed her on the cheek and said, “Have fun.”

Meanwhile in the real world there are those who say,

Wait. One. Minute.

Lets reverse the roles shall we.

I have a friend named Paul. Paul planned a guys night out! When his girlfriend asked what movie he was going to see he replied, “Just a film about a girl’s life of being a stripper.” His girlfriend smacked him on the cheek and said, “Heck no!”

Lets be real ladies. The majority of women don’t find it ok for their boyfriends or husbands to watch erotic movies. Aka,

PORN.

Ouch. That word hurts doesn’t it?

Yeah, but Magic Mike didn’t have any “bad” nudity. It was just rated R for pervasive sexual content and BRIEF graphic nudity. It wasn’t that bad. It isn’t considered porn.

Question: Would you approve your husband/boyfriend/dad/brother to go to a strip club?

Most would say no.

But maybe you would answer: Its their business. I don’t see why its that big of a deal.

Question: Would you approve of your pastor/youth leader/church leader to go to a strip club? Seriously. Even if you don’t go to church, but you saw the pastor of some church walking into a strip club, would you EVER go to his church? You would probably call him “Just another Christian hypocrite.”

This pastor, so to speak, is just a man. Just a man like your husband or boyfriend or brother. So what’s the difference? Why is it ok for one and not the other?

Here’s a hint. Its not ok for them. And its its not ok for us.

Why is it ok for women to go watch a movie about a male stripper, but totally wrong for men to go to a strip club? In reality, the only difference is that in one setting, the strippers are right in front of you and in the other, they’re on a movie screen. Both places you are sitting down to watch someone strip. Both places you are paying to watch someone strip. Both places you would feel uncomfortable if your mother was sitting right next to you.

They’re calling it MOMMY PORN.

Soon to be in theaters is a movie that I’m sure most of you have heard the buzz, Fifty Shades of Grey. Just another romantic comedy? No. This movie is nothing less than a soft porno. Its rated R for,

Strong sexual content including dialogue, some unusual behavior and graphic nudity, and for language.

Its a movie about sex. Promoting violent sexual activities.

Lets put it this way. There are scenes from the book that were so explicit that the producers didn’t even attempt to put them in the movie.

And yet, there are mommies everywhere who cant wait to see it. I don’t say that in a judgmental way rather, how is this ok? How is it fair? What are you saying to your husbands and boyfriends and sons and daughters when you watch this movie?

We have a generation of youth who are struggling with addiction to pornography and yet we go and watch movies that promote just that!

If you’re still not convinced, how about taking a look at some of the song titles from the soundtrack like, I Put A Spell On You, Witchcraft, Haunted, Beast of Burden,  and Did That Hurt.

When a man watches porn how does he feel toward the woman on screen? Lustful. A big problem I hear from women who’s husband watch porn is that it gives them a false expectation of what sex really is. It leaves the women feeling inadequate and unattractive.

When a woman watches these “romantic” movies. How does she feel toward the man on screen? Lustful. Is it possible that these movies could give you a false expectation of what your husband should be doing?

The movie Boy Next Door is also worth mentioning. I read it being described as one of Jennifer Lopez most provocative movies to date. I read an article from the guy that played the “boy” and he described the scenes as being so uncomfortable because your doing things that you usually would only do in private.

Is this really ok?

I strongly feel that the porn industry is trying to broaden their viewing audiences so that their main viewers aren’t just men, but moms like you and I. And what better way than to put “almost porn” on the big screen.

We have a choice ladies. Lets make it one to be proud of.